Tonight laying with my son, my hand against his chest, his hand against my cheek, tears came to my eyes. I felt the warmth of his skin, listened to his breath softening and slowing down, and in the silence my mind recalled some of the things that quietly, deeply moved my heart this week — a thousand in everyday life.
~ The scene at a funeral on Monday. From across the cemetery, across the casket, I watched the hands of a friend – mother of four with their fifth on the way – so strongly, so assuredly, so gently holding one of her children to her chest as he called out for his daddy.
~ Listening to his brother give a reflection on his life, beginning to cry, and his other brother coming to stand alongside him.
~ Talking with another mom at the lunch following the funeral, watching her eyes swell up with tears – tears of deep sorrow and solidarity with our friend. No words were necessary. We both knew
~ Watching my daughter’s teacher bend down to look at a student of hers at our school potluck – her loving smile that said, “I see you” and “please. Tell me more.”
~ Watching the children turn on the sprinkler at the our school potluck to cool off from the heat of the day – soaking wet, laughing, spraying water, full of delight.
~ Watching my son – my growing son – shirtless and soaked from the sprinkler – his body so lean I could see his ribs – watching him so easily climb the playset…me pausing and actually saying out loud with tears in my eyes to another mom who so “gets it”, “My god, he is no longer a little boy.”
~ My daughter laying for an afternoon rest, our puppy jumping up on the couch and nestling himself so sweetly and quietly next to her to rest with her.
~ My daughter going to school – my husband taking the kiddos – my daughter turning back to me, blowing me a kiss, then “blowing me a hug,” and asking, “Did you get both, mommy?!” Me doing the same back and her saying, “I’ll carry them with me all day today!”
~ Three mom friends – in the same day – in short “sound bites” of conversations all saying the same thing: we do so much alone during the day and I am feeling lonely. I need to be with other moms and we need to move our bodies, so let’s walk!
~ Making love to my husband…reminding me of the line from Rumi, “The way you make love is the way God will be with you.”
~ A three hour conversation (when does this ever happen for a mom?!) with a colleague…reflecting on it later that evening and the deep knowing swam across my chest, “I already have everything I want. I don’t need anything. I already am what I always longed for.”
~ Potluck Thursday at our house – guests already playing and eating, making themselves at home before I even arrived, running so very late after such a long meeting!
~ New words to describe my writing and why I write: It’s my vocation, my calling, my offering to the world. A reminder from deep within that I listen, I write what I hear, I put it into the world, and I release it. This is freedom.
~ Looking at the new art I am making – seeing the poetry whispered on my heart illustrated in front of me – and feeling, “Yes, it’s time this is out in the world.”
A thousand graces in everyday life that just show up, that open my heart so wide. I’m going to bed tonight with a deep sense of ease. Everything is imperfect – I so need to vacuum, there is work left to do, inner work that calls to me and fears to hold – and yet all of it is perfect. Just as it is.
And I am grateful, so very grateful, for my heart to see the thousands of things in our everyday lives that are tiny, magnificent graces. This is when a deep sense of sense of expansiveness fills me. The ego rests. The “small” “i” rests. I am Home. “i” dissolve and Grace remains.
Friends, there is suffering in life — there’s no denying that. Life can be HARD and messy. And yet, there are graces — a thousand graces — that are around us. Today as you go about your day, notice the graces. Notice the ways the Beloved (the Divine), a friend, your partner, your child, or a stranger grace your life. And then notice how the experience of these unprompted-just-for-you graces fill you with a sacred spaciousness.
Blessings,
Beautiful, Lisa. Just beautiful. Thank you.
P.S. I’ve been meaning to email you for ages!
Me, too, Susan! Have been thinking about you!
Truly inspired! Thank you for sharing. Spoke my heart far more eloquently than I ever could.
Hi Anne,
THank you for your kind words. I’m glad that they resonated with you. Blessings, Lisa
Thank you, Lisa, for this. It resonates with a poem I wrote this morning, trying to make sense out of all the suffering present to us this week coming from the world at large. Then, somehow, grace descended and I began to realize I am not alone in my own suffering, and then began to remember all things that make me happy. If you are interested in the poem I can send it to you under separate cover. Not great poetry…just heartfelt.
Mary, yes, the suffering right now happening is…well, I don’t have words for it right now. Yes, somehow grace descends. Somehow we realize we aren’t alone in our suffering. This is why I love metta meditation and also a meditation that I use throughout my day — just connecting to all who may be experiencing something similar in the exact moment. YES, Mary, I’d LOVE to read the poem. I think all poetry that is “from within us” and heartfelt is lovely poetry. It took me years to realize that. Send it to lmccrohan (at) gmail (dot) com.
Lisa
Thank you , dear Lisa, for the way your words set a peace-filled cadence in our souls.
Thank you, mom. You have such a beautiful way with words.
Thank you for sharing your graces with me. It reminds me to look and see them wherever I might. And smile and cry with them. And breathe. And fill. <3
Jodi, you say this in such a lovely way — “sharing graces.” You notice the goodness wherever you are and you journey with people to see the graces in their lives. What a gem you are for this world.
I get it and I get you. Thanks for sharing. You are a beautiful, incredible woman.
Yes, Brenda, you do “get me.” I’m grateful for your reassurance. Wow. Your words so fill me tonight as I head up to bed. Thank you!
Thank you Lisa! Your words are always inspiring. I often forget to look for those graces in my everyday life and it’s nice to be reminded!
Lisa….simply ‘thank you’ with a deep, heartfelt sigh of gratitude and love.